Psychologists have been studying happiness lately.  Since happiness can’t be measure directly they have to take surveys.   To make their studies more credible they take a lot of surveys and apply statistics.   But here is the thing statisticians will tell you.  Correlation does not mean causation.

From all these surveys on happiness psychologists concluded that there are a number of habits or activities that happy people do.  Their conclusion is that if you practice these habits or actions you can raise your level of happiness to be as happy as them. These activities include things like practicing gratitude, having a close social circle, gardening, and giving to the community.

But what if the correlation is from the opposite direction.  Perhaps those happy people have a lot of love to share.  What if the emotion of love coming out of them is so great that they have to share it in some way?  Out of that need to express their love they build close social circles, engage in activities and with communities in a way of sharing the love coming out of them.

If your love coming out of you is so strong you will find channels to express that love through social circles, activities like gardening, and caring for your community.

It is the emotion of love that will drive your activities,,, not the activities that that will change your emotion to happiness.

By Gary Van Warmerdam

 Hope that everyone can learn something from this great information I have found and posted for all of you. Have a wonderful prosperity year

~Sara

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In the best selling book The Four Agreements don Miguel Ruiz gives four principles to practice in order to create love and happiness in your life. Adopting and committing to these agreements is simple. Actually living and keeping these four agreements can be one of the hardest things you will ever do. It can also be one of he most life changing things you will ever do.

As you practice living these four practices your life will dramatically change. In the beginning these new habits will be challenging and you will lapse countless times. With practice these agreements become integrated into your being and every area of your life and become easy habits to keep.

Domestication

During our early life we began making agreements. Our parents rewarded us when we did what they wanted and they punished us when we didn’t. We also learned behaviors and habits in school, church, and from other adults and children on the playground. The tools of reward and punishment were often emotional and sometimes physical. The impact of other people’s opinions and reactions to us became a very strong force in the habits we created. In this process we created agreements in our mind of who we should be, what we shouldn’t be, who we were, and who we were not. Over time we learned to live our life based on the agreements in our own mind. We learned to live according to the agreements that came from the opinion of others. In this process of domestication it turns out that the choices we make and the life we live is more driven by the opinions we learned from others than one we would choose on our own. We have out of years of habit not paid attention to how we express our self. The responses that come out of our mouth are often automatic. They were learned from years of habit living by the agreements we learned. We do not consciously choose our words, or the emotion, tone, and attitude that we express.

The Four Agreements are:

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

When you decide to change your life and adopt the Four Agreements you are challenging the beliefs you learned and the habits you practiced since your childhood domestication.

Adopting the Four Agreements creates a conflict in the mind between expressing your self Impeccably with love and your existing fear based beliefs.

With the expectation of the new agreement that we will not break any of the Four Agreements we are set up for failure. We have an emotional reaction and take something personally which feels bad. (but is completely normal part of our old habits) But then the inner judge reprimands us for failing to not take something personally. Now we feel twice as bad. The inner judge tells us that we failed and the voice of the victim in the mind accepts this proposal.

The result is that we are not only upset, but we also feel like a failure. If you just look at your emotional state at this point it will seem like things are getting worse instead of better. It can seem like attempting to keep the Four Agreements is causing more problems and making you feel worse.

If you are aware that you are judging your self for taking something personally it can get worse. Your inner judge might use that awareness to judge and reject your self for judging your self for taking something personally. In the beginning of this process the mitote of voices in your head are likely to use your new found awareness as material for self judgment.

Upon reading don Miguel’s wisdom many people have their eyes opened to a new possibility for living life. They get excited when they see the potential for happiness, love, and respect with themselves and their relationships. What they fail to see is the challenges and resistance the mind will have to living just one of the agreements.

This book is a wonderful tool and a life changing experience. I highly recommend each and every one of you to take the time to read and understand theses basic, but very challenging Four Agreements. Because first you must mster Yourself…Then you master your Life. I hope that you will get something out of these few words that I have wrote today and take something away with you.

 Peace and  Love to all               ~Sara

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Hello To All the  Sweethearts!!

Growing up I have always celebrated Valentines Day with candies, either hard with loving sayings on them or chocolate or a dozen roses….(yawn…)

I can truly say I have never been so totally in Love with someone that I wanted to spend every breathing moment with them……it may be sad….but I never have…..:(

Recently, I have got to witness my daughter and her boyfriend which is true Love….they are soul mates….they cant breathe without each other and there always happy and smiling and glowing…..

He has the puppy eye look and she has that innocent smile that just makes him the happiest guy on earth…

She cant do anything wrong and he is simply just perfect…..This kind of Love will last a Lifetime….never ending…the kind we look for all of our lives……Some people get to experience it young in life and some never get to experience this kind of love in a lifetime………

For each and everyone of you Sweethearts out there…..just remember some day you may get to experience this kind of feeling for someone…..the kind that when they hurt…you hurt…when they cry…you cry…..happy tears of course..:)

Have faith that one day you will also be with the Love of your life……it will happen….you may be in a Retirement Home….but it could still happen……and when it does……it will be the best experience of your life 

If you find someone that you adore……Call us here at Gold Rush Resort Rentals and we can set you up with a cabin that is a Romantic Getaway for the two of you……..We are here waiting to help you out….Call us today…..

800-363-8303

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY EVERYONE!!

TAMMI

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Hello Everyone!! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

Today is a gorgeous day in Big Bear!!  The sun is out and the snow is melting and its nice and warm compared to the recent past two weeks….

Coming up on January 10th, 2010…(this Sunday) is  ” The Peanut Butter & Rail Jam”!

This is Volcom Stone’s amateur snowboard series.  There are two divisions, 16 & under and 17 & over.  This event is ABSOLUTELY free, on a first come first serve basis & boasts tons of FREE prizes & food!

This is located at The Bear Mountain Ski area!

SO….HERE’S THE PLAN…..

Call Goldrush Resort Rentals today at (800)-363-8303 – Get yourself a reservation with one of our private , cozy, clean cabins and get all tucked in and be ready for the big day on Sunday!!

Reservationist are standing by to help you….:)

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

TAMMI

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He sings to us when we need a lil lift!  Come check him out when you book a weekend with us   Visit our website to view specials coming up in february and March www.cabin 411.com

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Resolutions: It is believed that the Babylonians were the first to make New Year’s resolutions, and people all over the world have been breaking them ever since. The early Christians believed the first day of the New Year should be spent reflecting on past mistakes and resolving to improve oneself in the New Year.

Fireworks: Noisemaking and fireworks on New Year’s Eve is believed to have originated in ancient times, when noise and fire were thought to dispel evil spirits and bring good luck. The Chinese are credited with inventing fireworks and use them to spectacular effect in their New Year’s celebrations.

For more New Year’s features see the History of New Year and Saying “Happy New Year!” Around the World.

United States

Probably the most famous tradition in the United States is the dropping of the New Year ball in Times Square, New York City, at 11:59 P.M. Thousands gather to watch the ball make its one-minute descent, arriving exactly at midnight. The tradition first began in 1907. The original ball was made of iron and wood; the current ball is made of Waterford Crystal, weighs 1,070 pounds, and is six feet in diameter.

A traditional southern New Year’s dish is Hoppin’ John—black eyed peas and ham hocks. An old saying goes, “Eat peas on New Year’s day to have plenty of everything the rest of the year.”

Another American tradition is the Rose Bowl in Pasadena, California. The Tournament of Roses parade that precedes the football game on New Year’s Day is made up of elaborate and inventive floats. The first parade was held in 1886.

Hogmanay (Scotland)

The birthplace of “Auld Lang Syne” is also the home of Hogmanay (hog-mah-NAY), the rousing Scottish New Year’s celebration (the origins of the name are obscure). One of the traditions is “first-footing.” Shortly after midnight on New Year’s Eve, neighbors pay visits to each other and impart New Year’s wishes. Traditionally, First foots used to bring along a gift of coal for the fire, or shortbread. It is considered especially lucky if a tall, dark, and handsome man is the first to enter your house after the New Year is rung in. The Edinburgh Hogmanay celebration is the largest in the country, and consists of an all-night street party (visit their Hagmanay website here).

Oshogatsu (Japan)

The New Year is the most important holiday in Japan, and is a symbol of renewal. In December, various Bonenkai or “forget-the-year parties” are held to bid farewell to the problems and concerns of the past year and prepare for a new beginning. Misunderstandings and grudges are forgiven and houses are scrubbed. At midnight on Dec. 31, Buddhist temples strike their gongs 108 times, in an effort to expel 108 types of human weakness. New Year’s day itself is a day of joy and no work is to be done. Children receive otoshidamas, small gifts with money inside. Sending New Year’s cards is a popular tradition—if postmarked by a certain date, the Japanese post office guarantees delivery of all New Year’s cards on Jan. 1.

Spain

The Spanish ritual on New Year’s Eve is to eat twelve grapes at midnight. The tradition is meant to secure twelve happy months in the coming year.

The Netherlands

The Dutch burn bonfires of Christmas trees on the street and launch fireworks. The fires are meant to purge the old and welcome the new.

Greece

In Greece, New Year’s Day is also the Festival of St. Basil, one of the founders of the Greek Orthodox Church. One of the traditional foods served is Vassilopitta, or St Basil’s cake. A silver or gold coin is baked inside the cake. Whoever finds the coin in their piece of cake will be especially lucky during the coming year.

~Sara

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Feng Shui is an ancient art of placement to bring
balance and harmony to a physical space. The loose
translation of Feng Shui is wind and water. Feng
represents the wind that carries the chi (energy)
throughout a space. Shui is the water that meanders
underneath the earth transporting chi.

Chi is the invisible energy that surrounds us. To most
people this energy cannot be felt, seen, or heard but it
influences all living things. Chi should flow effortlessly
around physical structures to bring balance and
harmony. Feng Shui was invented, thousands of years
ago to ensure the flow of chi would bring positive
vibrations not negative ones that could create discord
and chaos.

Feng Shui has been around for thousand of years but
only in the past twenty years has North America really
taken notice of this ancient art of placement.
Professor Lin Yun pioneered the Feng Shui movement in
the West. He teaches Black Hat Sect Feng Shui.

Its main objective is to align your physical space with
your personal life goals. Our homes are a reflection of
our life. Feng Shui’s purpose is to change the physical
space, to allow the individual to reach their goals.

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You know that saying? Well it sure was this New Years!  We had a rare New Year’s Eve Blue Moon to ring in 2010!  Happy New Year to everyone   I hope your year is filled with joy and happiness!!

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Happy New Year 2010! I hope everybody had a safe and happy New Years!

The New Year offers a welcome opportunity to make a fresh start in life. If you’ve made some resolutions, think about implementing some of these Feng Shui tips to help you follow through with your intentions:

Lose Weight
By far, the best cure for losing weight involves ridding your home of clutter.

Clutter is symbolic of baggageand can manifest itself on your body as excess fat.

As with exercise, you need to start gently.

Persistence pays off in the long run.

Start with a single drawer, desk or closet.

As soon as you finish with that project,

you’ll be inspired to begin another.

The less junk you have in your house,

the more energized you’ll feel, and the easier it will be to shed pounds and enjoy exercise.

Find Love
If you want to find love in the New Year, head for the bedroom. It governs your sexual prospects.

First and foremost, make sure your bed has a clear view of the door,

but isn’t directly in line with the doorway. If you can’t move your bed,

position a mirror so you can see the entrance clearly while lying down.

Now you’ll be able to spot romance when it enters your life.

Next, make sure there is enough space on either side of your bed.

This symbolizes your desire to share your life with someone.

For added power, put a pair of beautiful objects in the far right corner of your room.

 A couple of red candles, a pair of square fluffy pillows or a painting of passionate lovers are all good choices.

Get a Job
If finding a job is a top priority, pay attention to your front entrance. Make sure it is well-lit.

Clear away cobwebs and dirt. Bracket the door with healthy plants. Oil its hinges and make sure its locks operate smoothly.

If you have a hard time turning the key in your door, install a new lock. Personalize the door with a name plate or engraved

knocker. The more attractive your front entrance, the easier it will be to find your dream job.

Have a Child
Plans to conceive or adopt a child can be set in motion with a few cures. First and foremost,

clear any storage items from beneath your bed. Then don’t clean under your bed until after the baby arrives.

That’s because a still, restful environment is best for welcoming a child. To maintain this peaceful atmosphere,

don’t hang any pictures or undergo home renovations while you’re trying to conceive or adopt. Last but not least,

hang a wind chime with six metal rods in the center portion of the right side of your home,

and ring it the same time each day until you get confirmation of your child’s arrival.

Graduate From or Gain Entry to School
Whether you’re about to finish a course of study or ready to embark on one, you need to

focus on the near left corner of your home. Placing pictures of mentors or wise

people in this spot can put you in a more scholastic frame of mind. If you want to gain entry

to a particular school, display its logo here. This part of your home is activated by the earth

element, so natural crystals and geodes work well here. A picture of a

mountain placed in the near left corner can also improve your scholastic prospects.

Improve Your Social Life
If you vow to become more social in the New Year, pay special attention to the center

portion of the left side of your home. It governs community.

The wood element can activate this portion of your home. Placing a healthy tall

plant in this spot can attract new friends. So can tall, wooden furniture; this would be

a perfect spot to place a bookcase, provided it isn’t packed full.

A little empty space is always necessary to cultivate growth.

Keep this in mind if you’re surrounded with toxic people.

The best way to get rid of these bloodsuckers is to

prune this spot of clutter, creating as much light and space as possible.

Remember, vampires can’t stand the sun — they prefer to dwell in dark, shadowy corners.

Get Noticed
If you’re tired of being passed over in work, love or play,

add a few feng shui cures to your fame gua.

This is located in the center portion of the far wall of your home. Add strong, vibrant colors like red,

orange and pink here. Animal prints can also activate this spot, as can candles and bright lights.

If these touches are too garish for your taste, take a more understated approach.

Use this spot to display diplomas, awards and trophies. At the very least,

put an attractive solitary photo of yourself in the fame gua and shine a bright light on it.

Make More Money
A resolution to make more money should include a plan to keep it anchored in your bank account.

Otherwise, you may spend it as quickly as it comes in! When it comes to financial matters,

it’s always wise to attend to the far left corner of your home, otherwise

known as the prosperity gua. A tall, healthy tree in a ceramic pot can work wonders here,

as it represents both growth and stability. For extra luck, you may want to slip a crisp

$100 bill underneath the plant pot to symbolize your desire to cultivate prosperity.

Place the money in a red envelope to stimulate its growth.

Travel
Want to spend the New Year traveling to distant shores? Then prepare your home accordingly.

Place a photo of your dream destination in the near right corner of your home, which governs travel.

If you want to go around the world, place a globe here and spin it once a day. Last but not least, add some metal energy here.

Place a silver box in this corner, and fill it with postcards or wish lists of dream trips.

It is important to set the tone daily, not just once a year when you make New Year’s resolutions.

Get more organized and clear the path ahead and you’ll be amazed at how many new gifts will appear in your life!

In the universe around us everything is organized in a certain order, rhythm and flow.

Feng Shui helps us get in tune with this universal energy.

The more you organize your home or office according to simple

Feng Shui principles, the more the universe will support you in manifesting your goals.

~Sara

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